Divorce solicitor | Children in divorce
Family breakdown is undeniably a traumatic and emotionally difficult time for almost every couple who goes through it, and knowing where to turn for advice regarding children in divorce can seem problematic.
As divorce solicitors in Chichester, the family law team at George Ide LLP offers astute and pragmatic legal advice and representation on divorce, civil partnership dissolution, and the myriad legal matters arising from relationship breakdown.
When it comes to advising on the law relating to divorce our team’s advice is sensitive, expert and will allow you to weigh up your personal situation in terms of the legal choices you have, so that you may decide what is best for you.
We also understand that there are a number of exceptionally tough emotional situations which arise out of relationship breakdown and, via our website, we hope to offer some advice on ways to manage these difficult issues.
Time to tell the children
No matter what the age of your children, telling them that you are separating or getting a divorce is a tough thing to do. Below are a number of suggestions which may help to make the situation less stressful for your child. There is no hard and fast method for telling children, but you may wish to think about some of the following before broaching the subject of separation with your family.
- If at all possible, both parents should come together to tell the children that they are getting a divorce. Where violence and domestic abuse are a factor this will almost certainly not be possible and the main consideration is to seek legal advice from a solicitor so that you and your child are protected.
- Discuss with the other parent beforehand what you are going to say and how you will respond to questions your child may have.
- Try to answer questions as fully as possible, but do not stray too far from your plan.
- Your child may show many different and unexpected reactions, from anger to silence, try to remain calm and do not get angry yourself. If the situation begins to get heated, take some time to walk away and to bring emotions back under control. You may also need to let your child take time out, as well. Let them.
- Remember to comfort your child and to reinforce your love for them. Reassure them that they will be able to spend time with both parents. Try not to let the situation turn into one where the child feels they need to comfort you.
- You can try to explain basic reasons as to why you are getting divorced, but do not go into too much detail and do not start blaming each other for the relationship breakdown.
- Although not all factors about the separation will potentially be settled at this point, try to be open and honest about some arrangements, such as who the children will live with. Let them know that they will be able to keep their toys and possessions, and where they will go to school, for instance.
- Let the children know that they are in no way to blame for the relationship breakdown and keep reassuring them of how much you love them and that you will both be there to care and support them.
- Encourage them to talk about their feelings, but be aware that it might be too difficult for them to express their emotions early on. Reassure them that you will be available to talk to them at any time and ask them if there is anyone else, a friend or close relative perhaps, who they may prefer to talk to.
These are just a few basic thoughts on some good ways to handle a very challenging situation, but if you are worried about telling your children there are many organisations that specialise in counselling and mediation for parents who need help in making arrangements for children on divorce.
George Ide divorce solicitors in Chichester
We have many years’ experience helping local people through this difficult and sometimes legally complex situation and have represented many clients in financial settlement claims, either as applicant or in defending a claim.
For more information on how the matrimonial team at George Ide LLP can help you during divorce please call our offices in Chichester or Bognor Regis, today.
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